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Beware of Romance Scammers

on February 9, 2022

I was going to post something else today, but then it happened again – some guy contacted me on Facebook wanting to be best buds. I immediately responded that my husband and daughter are my best friends. If I never hear from him again, that’s okay. More than likely, he’s a romance scammer.

Most of my social media activity is on WordPress. I enjoy posting things I’ve written and visiting other people’s blogs. I stay on Facebook mostly to stay in touch with family. I like looking at people’s photography on Instagram. I never liked Twitter and don’t use it. Not only do I not like Twitter management or Twitter as a company, but the nastiest people seem to hang out there. I’ve met some real kooks who just can’t get it through their heads that we live in a free country where all points of view are valuable. I’m not obligated to agree with them, no matter how nasty they get. LinkedIn is supposed to be a professional site, but it’s now used for dating purposes. I try to be polite and friendly to everyone, but it’s impossible when someone has hurt feelings because you rejected their romantic advances. So much for professionalism.

Facebook, Instagram, and WhatsApp are notorious sites for predators trying to pick up vulnerable women and children. And it has gotten worse with the isolating effects of COVID-19 and all the restrictions placed on us. People are hungry for affection and communication, and this sets them up as victims of romance scammers, if they aren’t careful.

Scammers will contact you with credentials like “widower living in San Diego but currently working for the UN in Yemen.” They often pose as a doctor or other humanitarian worker. They may have at least one child in boarding school. They send you enticing photos of themselves which have probably been stolen or faked. They come off as real friendly and understanding, sincerely looking for a good friend and/or partner. They try to win your trust through flattery and play on your burning need for affection. As you become more involved, they try to control the conversation, control you, and put guilt trips on you if you try to back off. They can be downright abusive in maintaining that control. Eventually, they will hit you up for money or sex or whatever they are looking to get from you.

They don’t care if you are married, how many children you have, or how old you are. They will tell you that such things don’t matter with true love. Many of these scams come out of Nigeria, so talking on video chat is questionable. After all, it’s hard to explain how the white man in the photos working as a doctor in Yemen suddenly turned into a black man living in Nigeria.

Valentine’s Day is a day when we honor our spouses, our partners, our love interests, our children, and our friends. Everybody wants a little romance in their life. But online scammers know this and will make you pay a heavy price for that digital experience.

Dawn Pisturino, RN

February 9, 2022

Copyright 2022 Dawn Pisturino. All Rights Reserved.

25 responses to “Beware of Romance Scammers

  1. Timothy Price says:

    One of the many reasons I have no social media other than WP, YouTube and SoundCloud.

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  2. Iowa Life says:

    Guys get it from a slightly different angle. You can’t even make a comment on FOX’s Facebook page without being bombarded by 23 yr old cuties with friend requests. Its funny because I’ve noticed CNN’s page gets about zero spam. I think part of it is a targeted attack to make people not want to go there. On The New American magazine site I go to, it for years has been targeted with these “I make $85 dollars an hour working from home!” They find it no problem to censor a certain group of people whose views they don’t like, but they seem utterly helpless against spammers!

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    • I hear you! On LinkedIn, I see women throwing themselves at men in the comments, and I always want to say, “If you’re looking for a good time, go stand on a corner in North Las Vegas!” (a notoriously bad part of town) I haven’t done it yet, but one of these days . . . LOL

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  3. Jane Aguiar says:

    Informative post. I liked it, dear Dawn โค๏ธ

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  4. You really described that so well. Thank you thousand times.

    In Arabic, this is called Bezness, which comes from business. This is really spiritually and morally down under. Those who have experienced it are often devastated for life.

    “I enjoy posting things I’ve written and visiting other people’s blogs.”

    This is so honestly described by you. it is a-bigger-bang. Bye bye๐ŸŒน

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  5. […] Beware of Romance Scammers โ€” Dawn Pisturino’s Blog […]

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  6. My gosh, what people will not resort to nowadays. ๐Ÿ™„ I’ve had a similar experience Dawn. What do I look like, the poster child for e-haromony? SMH Romance Scammers eh? I like the way you handled it. You didn’t initiate snuggling up to that potential predator! ๐Ÿ‘น๐Ÿ’ฉ๐Ÿ‘บ UGH!!!

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  7. Lots of scammers out there and no way to know who or what is behind the cyber mask. I’ve had the same issues all over the net

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  8. KT Workman says:

    Iโ€™ve experienced this on Facebook quite a few times. You look at theses guyโ€™s (?) profiles, and hardly anything is there. I just delete their comment, and move on. Itโ€™s so sad that many women, particularly the older ones like me, fall for this BS.

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  9. balladeer says:

    Yep, you have to be on the lookout for catfishers.

    Liked by 1 person

  10. Sensible words, spoken from the heart.

    Liked by 1 person

  11. Vinny says:

    Yeah Facebook is crazy at times. I do wonder how people fall for it but they do unfortunately.

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